Living and dealing with kids can be a hard job these days, but living and dealing with parents can be even harder.
如今，抚养和应对孩子可能是一件苦差事，但与父母相处并处理好关系甚至更难。
If I have learned anything in my 16 years, it is that communication is very important, both when you disagree and when you get along well.
如果说我在16年的人生中学到了什么，那就是沟通至关重要，无论是在意见相左时还是相处融洽时都是如此。
With any relationship, you need to let other person know how you are feeling.
在任何关系中，你都需要让对方知道你的感受。
If you are not able to communicate, you drift apart.
如果无法沟通，彼此就会渐行渐远。
When you are mad at your parents, or anyone else, not talking to them doesn’t solve anything.
当你对父母或其他任何人生气时，拒绝交谈解决不了任何问题。
Communication begins with the concern for another.
沟通始于对他人的关心。
It means that you can’t just come home from school, go up to your room and ignore everyone.
这意味着你不能放学回家后径直走进房间，对所有人都不理不睬。
Even if you just say “Hi”, and see how their day was for five minutes, it is better than nothing.
哪怕只是花五分钟打个招呼、问候一下他们今天过得怎么样，也比什么都不做要强。
If you looked up the word “communication” in a dictionary, it would say “the exchange of ideas, the expression of information, correspondence, means of communication: a letter or a message”.
如果你查阅字典中“communication”一词，它会解释为“思想的交流、信息的表达、通信、沟通方式：信件或消息”。
To keep a good relationship, you must keep communication strong.
要维持良好的关系，就必须保持顺畅的沟通。
Let people know how you feel, even if it’s just by writing a note.
让人们知道你的感受，即使只是通过写张便条也好。
When dealing with parents, you always have to make them feel good about how they are doing as a parent.
在与父母相处时，你总得让他们觉得自己作为父母做得还不错。
If you are trying to make them see something as you see it, tell them that you’ll listen to what they have to say, but ask them politely to listen to you.
如果你想让他们用你的视角看待问题，就告诉他们你会倾听他们的想法，但也请礼貌地请求他们听听你的心声。
Yelling or walking away only makes the situation worse.
大吵大闹或一走了之只会让情况变得更糟。
This is an example: one night, Sophie went to a street party with her friends.
举个例子：一天晚上，索菲和朋友去参加街头派对。
She knew she had to be home by midnight after the fireworks, but she didn’t feel she could just ask to go home.
她知道烟花表演结束后必须在午夜前到家，但她觉得不好意思直接开口说要回家。
That would be rude.
那样做太失礼了。
After all, they had been nice enough to take her along with them.
毕竟，朋友们好心带她一起去玩。
Needless to say, she was late getting home.
不出所料，她回家晚了。
Her parents were mad at first, but when Sophie explained why she was late, they weren’t as mad and let the incident go.
起初父母很生气，但当索菲解释了迟到的原因后，他们就没那么生气了，这件事也就此揭过。
Communication is the key factor here.
在这里，沟通是关键因素。
If Sophie’s parents had not been willing to listen, Sophie would have been in a lot of trouble.
如果索菲的父母不愿意倾听，她恐怕会有大麻烦。
Communication isn’t a one-way deal: it goes both ways.
沟通不是单向的，而是双向的互动。
Just remember: if you get into a situation like Sophie’s, telling the other person how you feel—listening is the key factor to communication.
请记住：如果你遇到像索菲那样的情况，向对方表达你的感受以及学会倾听，才是有效沟通的关键。
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