化嫉妒为动力：成就更好的自己

本文探讨了嫉妒心理的成因与应对方法。文章指出嫉妒源于对他人拥有的渴望，建议将其转化为自我提升的动力。通过接纳自我、制定目标、真诚祝福他人及专注自身成长，人们可以摆脱负面情绪，将嫉妒变为积极的行动力，最终实现个人进步并获得真正的自信与快乐。

It’s a familiar feeling.
这是一种熟悉的感觉。

Your friend has made the team for Saturday’s big game, and you tell him you can’t be there to watch him play.
你的朋友入选了周六大赛的阵容，你却告诉他你无法到场观看他的比赛。

You smile, but that voice in you asks, why him and not you?
你面带微笑，但内心有个声音却在问：为什么是他而不是你？

In fact, that is envy(嫉妒).
事实上，这就是嫉妒。

It appears when we focus on something that we don’t have but others do.
当我们关注那些自己没有而别人拥有的东西时，它就会出现。

Or we may even wish someone to lose it.
或者我们甚至可能希望别人失去它。

Feelings of unfairness are part of men, but when you focus on them, you can never get out of your dark emotions(情绪).
不公平感是人类情感的一部分，但当你过分纠结于此，就永远无法摆脱负面情绪的困扰。

And that makes you feel bad.
这会让你感觉糟糕。

So is there a solution?
那么，有什么解决办法吗？

Well, why not stop it, and make it the encouragement you need for self-improvement?
不妨试着停止这种心态，将其转化为自我提升所需的动力吧。

The best method against envy is not to compete where you can’t shine, but to do your best where you can.
对抗嫉妒的最佳方法，不是在你不擅长的领域去竞争，而是在你能发光发热的地方做到最好。

Start by making peace with yourself, and accept the gifts which make you special.
首先与自己和解，接纳那些让你与众不同的天赋。

Make an agreement with yourself to be the best you can be.
与自己达成约定，努力成为最好的自己。

Then find out what starts your envy.
然后找出引发你嫉妒的根源。

Is it someone’s singing voice or their new car?
是别人的歌喉，还是他们的新车？

Envy shows us the things we’d like to have — so make up a plan to get them.
嫉妒向我们展示了内心渴望拥有的事物——所以制定一个计划去实现它们吧。

Start a training program.
开始一项训练计划。

Give up a treat or two, and start saving for what you want.
少享受一两次口腹之欲，开始为你想要的东西存钱。

Pay attention to real pleasure in the achievements of others.
学会真诚地为他人的成就感到快乐。

Cheer on your friend when he scores that goal.
当朋友进球时，为他欢呼喝彩。

Enjoy your best friend’s wedding day.
尽情享受挚友的婚礼时光。

Then go out and do something special, and make yourself really proud of you.
然后走出去做些特别的事，让自己真正为自己感到骄傲。