该对孩子说善意的谎言吗？

The following are the posts in an Internet chat room. In this chat room, parents talk about some of the questions they have with their children.
以下是网络聊天室中的帖子。在这个聊天室里，父母们讨论他们与孩子之间的一些问题。

Parviz
帕尔维兹

Parents should be honest to their children, but they don’t have to tell the whole truth. Next time when your son asks, “Did I play well?” You can say, “What do you think?” Then your son can tell you what he thinks. That way, everything you say is true, and you avoid truth that hurts.
父母应该对孩子诚实，但不必说出全部真相。下次当你儿子问“我踢得好吗？”时，你可以说：“你觉得呢？”这样你的儿子就能告诉你他的想法。这样一来，你说的每句话都是真实的，同时避免了伤害性的真相。

Missy
米西

You lied to make your son feel better, but you missed a good chance to teach him a life lesson. People should work hard for what they want. Maybe next time you can say, “No, you didn’t play well today. Great soccer players practise a lot. Let’s go and practise.” The truth will make him strong and a good soccer player.
你撒谎是为了让儿子感觉好些，但你错失了一个教他人生的好机会。人们应该为自己想要的东西努力。也许下次你可以说：“不，你今天踢得不好。优秀的足球运动员会大量练习。我们去练习吧。”真相会让他变得坚强，成为一名优秀的足球运动员。

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Maria
玛丽亚

Is it ever OK to lie to a child? My ten-year-old son plays soccer. He’s not very good at it, but he loves it. Yesterday he played very badly. When he finished the game, he asked, “Did I play well?” I said, “Yes! You’re a great soccer player!” Did I do the right thing?
对孩子撒谎可以吗？我十岁的儿子踢足球。他不太擅长，但他很喜欢。昨天他踢得很差。比赛结束后，他问我：“我踢得好吗？”我说：“是的！你是个很棒的足球运动员！”我做对了吗？

Bay212
贝212

Yes, you did the right thing. White lies are a necessary part of life. Sometimes you have to tell lies that do no harm. Your purpose was to make him feel good. Now he’s ready to play soccer again.
是的，你做对了。善意的谎言是生活中必要的一部分。有时你必须说一些无害的谎话。你的目的是让他感觉良好。现在他又准备好去踢球了。

Bernie
伯尼

I don’t think there is ever a good reason to lie to our children. Children learn honesty from the examples they see. As parents, we should be honest in order to teach honesty to our children. Every lie requires five more lies. If you keep hiding truth from them, they will not trust you. They will not respect you. Honesty is the first step to a good parent-child relationship.
我认为没有任何正当理由可以向孩子撒谎。孩子们从他们所见的榜样中学习诚实。作为父母，我们应该诚实，以便教导孩子诚实。每一个谎言都需要五个更多的谎言来掩盖。如果你一直对他们隐瞒真相，他们将不再信任你，也不会尊重你。诚实是建立良好亲子关系的第一步。